9August 2017

Step Four & Five: Re-Engage and Repeat

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A few years ago, a friend of mine and his wife had a baby. I took a step back from worrying about what gift to get them, reflected on how often we joke around, and

2August 2017

Step Three: Decide to Make Changes

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Now that we’ve gotten some psychological distance and done some self-reflection, we’re ready to make a decision about how we want to change (or not change). Keep in mind: The decision must be tied to

26July 2017

Step Two: Self Reflection

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I overheard two sisters talking the other day. The older sister was maybe 7 years old, the other was 4 or 5. The older sister asks: “Why do you always copy everything I do?” “I

17July 2017

Step One: Stepping Back

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The first step towards becoming Independent Enough is to get all the “noise” we may have about other people, or a specific person, out of our heads. Impressions, ideas, beliefs, conclusions, and guesses about why

9July 2017

Let’s Review

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According to the longest study of adult development ever conducted, the key to living longer and healthier and having a clear mind is maintaining good, solid relationships. Seriously.  Not eating vegetables, not exercising, not drinking

10May 2017

The First 100 Days

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There’s been a lot of talk about the first 100 days of the Trump administration. Lots of looking back and evaluating what’s been done—good, bad or indifferent. What would happen if each of us did