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Uncategorized Archives - Larry Shushansky's Independent Enough

Finding Balance in the Political Storm

We are all attached to the political storm to some extent, but our levels of attachment vary. Think of it as a continuum. At the far end of the continuum there are the people who don’t want to  watch or read any news, talk about politics, or know anything about the latest “crisis.” These are

By | February 7th, 2017|0 Comments

Our Psychological Well-Being versus the Political Storm

It has been one week since the inauguration of Donald Trump. Millions of people around the United States were thrilled that rainy Friday morning. Their mood was elated. Riding high. Being pumped. Positive things were imagined for the new Leader of the Free World. I know—I see a handful of clients who are pro-Trump and

By | January 29th, 2017|4 Comments

Sorry, Life Isn’t About What You “Want” To Do

The other day, I had a headache like I hadn’t had in years. It wasn’t a migraine, but it was big. It had been steadily growing most of the day, and by 3 o’clock, it was all I could think of. Because I’m a hippie at heart, I try my best to avoid medication as

By | January 17th, 2017|3 Comments

The Case Against People Triangles

When two people are having a conflict, and one person brings a third party into it as a way of either trying to resolve the problem or easing the tension, a "people triangle" is created. Think about it: How many times have you had a problem with your boss, a friend, a spouse, or family

By | January 9th, 2017|3 Comments

How Do We Get Out of a Power Struggle?

It’s interesting how we believe the winner of a power struggle is the one who does not lose the struggle. Because our true power doesn’t lie in winning or losing, our true power lies in leading our relationships in the direction we want them to go. A friend of mine was in an argument with

By | December 19th, 2016|3 Comments

I Can’t Avoid Conflict Forever—So How Do I Deal With It?

Some of us are still in turmoil over the election, withdrawing from social media and any kind of political conversation. I get it—it’s been exhausting. But we can’t hide forever. Over the next four years, it’s important to remain Independent Enough so that we are able to respond to differing opinions in a way that

By | December 13th, 2016|0 Comments

What’s Next?

This week has been terrible for one half of the country and great for the other half. Whether you’re more upset than you’ve ever felt in your life with election results or you finally feel as though your voice is being heard, you may be asking yourself: “What’s next?” The campaign this year was beyond

By | November 16th, 2016|1 Comment

No, You’re Wrong!

In relationships, power struggles breed more power struggles. They become our way of dealing with disagreements, simple misunderstandings, and major conflicts. Whether we’d like to admit it or not, power struggles are our way of changing another person to how we want them to be or changing a situation so it comes out the way

By | October 1st, 2016|2 Comments

Myth #2: The Myth That If You Listen To Experts, You’ll Be Happier

The other day I was talking to an anxious person who said he had just learned a breathing technique that really calmed him down. He said he learned how to pull his stomach in and then fill up his lungs before letting out his breath.   I sat quietly and listened. Everything I’d learned said

By | August 21st, 2016|1 Comment

Myth #1 The Myth That Knowing “Why” Helps

Knowledge is power! And we often think that if we know why something happens or why someone is doing what they’re doing, then we have a handle on what’s going on and we can know how we need to act or respond.   “Oh, she’s just doing that because she’s jealous.” “He’s being controlling that’s

By | August 17th, 2016|6 Comments