The First 100 Days

There’s been a lot of talk about the first 100 days of the Trump administration. Lots of looking back and evaluating what’s been done—good, bad or indifferent. What would happen if each of us did the same thing? Suppose each and every one of us looked back every 100 days and assessed what we’ve done—good,

By | May 10th, 2017|0 Comments

Lessons from a 4-Year-Old

When I’m around children, I’m either taking care of them or waiting until they leave. But the other day, without much thought, I actually learned something from a 4-year-old. It was first thing in the morning when I saw an interaction between two 4-year-olds at the local YMCA. One of the boys was standing there,

By | April 4th, 2017|3 Comments

Saying “I Love You”

Ever said, “I love you?” Sure you have. But did you ever stop and think what this really meant, or did you just wallow in the good feeling it brought? I would say, wallowing and gushing is probably more of what you’ve done. But true love is not about the sentimental feeling we often long

By | March 14th, 2017|0 Comments

How to Maintain Your “Self”

The concept of the “self” is hard to define, but for the purpose of this blog let’s say it’s what distinguishes you from others. It’s you and your foibles, thoughts, feelings, history, baggage, and beliefs all culminated into the present moment. There are millions of selves on this planet, and they’re constantly evolving and developing

By | March 5th, 2017|2 Comments

Anger? Rage?

People from all sides of the political spectrum are more angry than ever before at what’s happening. Some people have even described their anger as “rage,” even at the sight of an opposing political figure. Where does this kind of anger come from? The more powerless and out of control we feel, the more angry

By | February 26th, 2017|0 Comments

Finding Balance in the Political Storm

We are all attached to the political storm to some extent, but our levels of attachment vary. Think of it as a continuum. At the far end of the continuum there are the people who don’t want to  watch or read any news, talk about politics, or know anything about the latest “crisis.” These are

By | February 7th, 2017|0 Comments

Our Psychological Well-Being versus the Political Storm

It has been one week since the inauguration of Donald Trump. Millions of people around the United States were thrilled that rainy Friday morning. Their mood was elated. Riding high. Being pumped. Positive things were imagined for the new Leader of the Free World. I know—I see a handful of clients who are pro-Trump and

By | January 29th, 2017|4 Comments

Sorry, Life Isn’t About What You “Want” To Do

The other day, I had a headache like I hadn’t had in years. It wasn’t a migraine, but it was big. It had been steadily growing most of the day, and by 3 o’clock, it was all I could think of. Because I’m a hippie at heart, I try my best to avoid medication as

By | January 17th, 2017|3 Comments

The Case Against People Triangles

When two people are having a conflict, and one person brings a third party into it as a way of either trying to resolve the problem or easing the tension, a "people triangle" is created. Think about it: How many times have you had a problem with your boss, a friend, a spouse, or family

By | January 9th, 2017|3 Comments

How Do We Get Out of a Power Struggle?

It’s interesting how we believe the winner of a power struggle is the one who does not lose the struggle. Because our true power doesn’t lie in winning or losing, our true power lies in leading our relationships in the direction we want them to go. A friend of mine was in an argument with

By | December 19th, 2016|3 Comments