Larry Shushansky

About Larry Shushansky

Rhode-Island based therapist, Larry Shushansky, has over thirty years of experience as a counselor and social worker. After graduating with a masters degree in social work in 1980, Larry went on to set up family therapy programs within non-profit and for-profit organizations, direct a residential facility for adolescents, and perform clinical work in hospitals, mental health centers, and family service agencies. For the past 25 years, Larry has delivered therapy in private practice, helping thousands of individuals, couples, and families become happier through his unique insight into relationships of all kinds. In addition to an active public speaking schedule, Larry has shared his Independent Enough approach in The Chicago Tribune, The Boston Globe, Fast Company, The Everyday Power Blog, EverUp, and many others.

Ready for the Fall

My son is in the middle of replacing our family room’s floor. Last week he had taken up the old floor, so there were only joists for a few days. You could look through the spaces between the joists and see our basement about 12 feet down. I came home one day and found all

By | June 20th, 2018|12 Comments

It’s Not Easy

The day after a big snow storm, I woke up to a pain in my left arm that brought tears. I knew I had shoveled a lot the day before, but I didn’t know what I had done to make my arm hurt this bad. I made an appointment with a physical therapist who diagnosed

By | May 29th, 2018|4 Comments

It Takes Time and a Team

I bought a phone last year with a backup battery case, but it “freezes” a couple times a day. I have to turn it off, wait a few minutes, and turn it back on to get it to work. I went to the store where I bought it and they told me to download the

By | April 11th, 2018|3 Comments

Gimme, Gimme!

There was a husband and wife who argued...a lot. He wanted her to be more affectionate, more giving, and warmer. At one point, all he wanted was simple conversation. She fought against him, saying he was needy, pushy, and that there was too much to do to simply sit and talk. They went into couples

By | March 25th, 2018|2 Comments

Where Did the Love Go?

This is a story about a man and woman who initially got along really well. They talked for hours about everything and anything. He felt close to her and she felt close to him. Then, as the relationship went on, he lost interest while she wanted to spend more time together. He was hesitant, thinking,

By | March 4th, 2018|2 Comments

Put in the Work—Especially When There’s Conflict

The other day a friend asked me, "How can you walk this earth independently enough to not care what others' opinions are? Or to be free from others' opinions and criticisms of you?" “You can't,” I responded. "But if you don't take things personally,” he tried, “then can't you have that kind of freedom?" "If

By | February 18th, 2018|0 Comments

Only in the Movies?

In the movie “Paterson”, a man named Paterson drives a bus in Paterson, New Jersey, and writes poetry in a secret journal during his spare time. His writing is the most important part of his life, other than his love for his wife. His wife encourages him to copy the journal so he can send

By | February 11th, 2018|1 Comment

Relationships Can Be Counter-Intuitive

I am a giver. 30% tips to waiters and waitresses, counter people, Uber drivers; I also give to panhandlers and street musicians on the corner. The other night, I was waiting in line to buy movie tickets and a group of college students were $10 short. I would’ve given them the money if my wife

By | January 31st, 2018|7 Comments

What Do *I* Need To Do

We’re turning the room next to our bedroom into a walk-in closet in a house we bought a year ago. The house was built in 1750 and has paper thin walls, no insulation and not enough closet space. We got a few outrageous quotes from closet companies, so we postponed the project. Then, my son

By | January 5th, 2018|1 Comment

Working Through Differences

We all experience differences in our relationships every day—political and religious differences, racial and ethnic differences. There are differences in the way we parent, the way we work, the way we spend money, and in just about any other area you can imagine. There are a number of ways most of us deal with someone

By | December 30th, 2017|1 Comment