18February 2018

Put in the Work—Especially When There’s Conflict

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The other day a friend asked me, "How can you walk this earth independently enough to not care what others' opinions are? Or to be free from others' opinions and criticisms of you?" “You can't,”

11February 2018

Only in the Movies?

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In the movie “Paterson”, a man named Paterson drives a bus in Paterson, New Jersey, and writes poetry in a secret journal during his spare time. His writing is the most important part of his

31January 2018

Relationships Can Be Counter-Intuitive

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I am a giver. 30% tips to waiters and waitresses, counter people, Uber drivers; I also give to panhandlers and street musicians on the corner. The other night, I was waiting in line to buy

5January 2018

What Do *I* Need To Do

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We’re turning the room next to our bedroom into a walk-in closet in a house we bought a year ago. The house was built in 1750 and has paper thin walls, no insulation and not

30December 2017

Working Through Differences

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We all experience differences in our relationships every day—political and religious differences, racial and ethnic differences. There are differences in the way we parent, the way we work, the way we spend money, and in

6December 2017

Security vs. Spontaneity

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We all settle into our relationships after a while. Meaning, we interact with the same people the same way most of the time. Our interactions become standardized. Routine. That's how my wife knows the answer