10September 2017

Providing Our Own Needs

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When we don’t get what we want in our relationships and we lose ourselves in our own neediness, then to be happy, we have to figure out how we can provide ourselves what we’re not

23August 2017

Independent Enough from Ourselves

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All conflict in relationships comes from dependency. Whenever we depend on someone else for our well-being, there’s potential for conflict. That’s not to say that all dependency is bad—because it’s impossible to be in a

9August 2017

Step Four & Five: Re-Engage and Repeat

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A few years ago, a friend of mine and his wife had a baby. I took a step back from worrying about what gift to get them, reflected on how often we joke around, and

2August 2017

Step Three: Decide to Make Changes

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Now that we’ve gotten some psychological distance and done some self-reflection, we’re ready to make a decision about how we want to change (or not change). Keep in mind: The decision must be tied to

26July 2017

Step Two: Self Reflection

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I overheard two sisters talking the other day. The older sister was maybe 7 years old, the other was 4 or 5. The older sister asks: “Why do you always copy everything I do?” “I

17July 2017

Step One: Stepping Back

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The first step towards becoming Independent Enough is to get all the “noise” we may have about other people, or a specific person, out of our heads. Impressions, ideas, beliefs, conclusions, and guesses about why