I was in that state between waking up and sleeping this morning while I drowsily thought about my son, my granddaughter, and two of my clients. Then, my alarm went off even though I wasn’t ready to get up. Still, I dropped out of bed and put on my sweats, which don’t fit quite right. The temperature in my bedroom was colder than I expected for a summer morning as I started my Yin Yoga practice.
Let’s stop there. Before seeing a single person, I already had interactions in eight different relationships: my son, my granddaughter, two clients, the time of day, my alarm clock, my clothes, and the temperature.
How I thought about each of these set my mood. If I had critical or judgmental thoughts, if I worried or “practiced” what I was going to say to someone, if I stayed in bed for a few more hours, my mood might’ve been slanted more negatively. On the flip side, if I thought about these people, things, or myself positively, then my mood would also likely move in that direction.
The thoughts we have about ourselves and others aren’t thoughts that have no effect. They often set our mood and influence how we might interact with someone in the future. If I thought about a problem I was having with my son, I might “rehearse” being strong and really telling him what was on my mind. The next time I see him, I might automatically act in a way that’s not appropriate because of those earlier thoughts.
But what I’m thinking is not necessarily what I should be doing.
So, the next time you’re getting out of bed, try to be aware of what you’re thinking and realize that your thoughts create your mood and influence your actions and behaviors for the day. Not your son, your granddaughter, the weather, the time of day, your alarm clock, your clothes, or the people you work with. You do.